20 Jul 7 Remedies for Emotional Wounds

We all experience different types of emotional wounds:

  • Death of a loved one
  • Rejection/abandonment
  • Injustice
  • Humiliation
  • Loneliness/exclusion
  • Injury

You’ve probably experienced a number of wounds from that list, and then some.

I’m not going to pretend I know the exact emotional pain you are currently experiencing or have recently come through. I am thankful for a big God who heals and redeems, and who gave us His Word as a guide through this life.

God is our ultimate Healer, but that doesn’t mean we don’t have a role to play. Below are 7 remedies for emotional wounds:

1. ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR EMOTIONS

It’s not always comfortable, but allow yourself to sit in your emotions. Observe your physical, mental, and verbal reactions. Pause, and recognize the thoughts running through your mind.

Maybe you notice your heart racing in anger. Or your throat tightening as you fight sorrowful tears. Maybe fantastical “what ifs” rise to the surface, or maybe your body is stoic and stunned. Whatever you feel, feel it.

This is a practice of mindfulness more than an analytical drill. Think stream of consciousness, where the thoughts flow organically, lingering just long enough for you to notice them before they drift away. The goal is to allow yourself to feel.

2. REFLECT

As a continuation of Remedy #1, be still and take time to reflect. If you don’t already know what works best for you, consider these strategies for processing your situation:

  • Breathe deeply. Inhale, hold, exhale. Clear your mind to think.
  • Journal. Write freely or prepare some questions for response.
  • Listen to music. Instrumental music is ideal for processing original thoughts, but music can also speak to us.
  • Talk to a trusted friend. Turn to someone who listens and gives you perspective and insights about your situation.
  • Pray. Talk to the Lord about your feelings. Share and listen, and allow the Holy Spirit to speak into your circumstance. Take a note from this prayer in Psalm 139:23: “Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts!”

3. GIVE YOURSELF GRACE

Allow yourself the time to weep and to mourn. Be patient with yourself. When you become your harshest critic, flip the switch and look at yourself from an outside perspective. Give yourself the grace that you’re quick to give others when they are in deep valleys.

With that, practice positive self-talk. Instead of believing harmful thoughts like, “I’m ridiculous for still feeling down,” take a rational perspective. Maybe it’s perfectly reasonable for you to feel this way. “I’m ridiculous” can turn to “I’m just still hurt,” getting you one step closer to a more positive outlook: “My feelings are valid and it’s okay for me to feel like this right now.”

4. SEEK COUNSEL FROM A SPIRITUAL MENTOR

It can be comforting to talk to a friend or family member about your hurt, but it’s also important to seek guidance from someone more spiritually mature than you. Find someone who can specifically help you progress through your emotional wound — someone who will listen and acknowledge real hurt but present a spiritual perspective to reach a point of forgiveness and resolution.

We weren’t created to do this life alone. Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 reads, “Two are better than one … For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!”

As an introvert, I tend to feel more comfortable with the ‘reflection’ remedy, where I can internalize my emotions and specifically not share them with another human. But this step is important, and I have seen the value in seeking that transformative guidance once I overcome my insecurities about asking for help.

5. TAKE A BREAK

Give your mind a rest from the emotional turmoil! As productive as it is to reflect and accept counsel, it’s hard work that can be overwhelming and exhausting. For this reason, partake in the delicate art of healthy compartmentalization.

Compartmentalizing sometimes comes with negative connotations, but I’m not suggesting you ignore or bury your emotions. Taking a break isn’t transferring into a state of denial. It’s rejuvenating your body and mind, bringing healing to your aching bones.

What makes your heart happy and joyful? Here are some ideas to get you started:

  • Exert energy. Release endorphins by working out, playing catch, or riding a bike.
  • Relax. Read a good book. Go see a movie or a theatre performance. Sit outside and enjoy the sunshine.
  • Do an activity. Play a board game or card game. Solve a puzzle. Take on a project at home. Craft or be creative with art or writing.

6. LOVE AND SERVE OTHERS

Step outside yourself and your hurt, and find ways to love others well. It may be a small act of kindness, or it may be volunteering your time and talents in a larger capacity. No matter the size of the service, it’s caring for someone and — BONUS — it’s applying disinfectant to your emotional wound.

It’s true. Serving others actually benefits your own mental health and wellbeing, according to the Mental Health Foundation.¹ Among other health benefits, like stress reduction and immune system boosting, helping others promotes positive physiological changes in the brain associated with happiness.

7. MOVE FORWARD

It’s necessary to acknowledge your grief, but it’s harmful and unproductive to stay there. Moving forward from the emotional wound requires making up your mind that you’re going to move through it. Make the conscious decision to trek ahead, leaning on the Lord every step of the way.

No matter the level of your hurt, God is almighty and powerful to bring you through it, especially when you invite Him in to do the healing work. “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds,” says Psalm 147:3. That’s a steadfast promise.

I find great comfort in Romans 8:28: “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.”

The Ultimate Healer

Jesus’ love for us is so deep and wide, that He endured the most unimaginable physical and emotional torture to save us from eternal suffering (Isaiah 53:5).

The Lord cares for every emotional wound, and He is ready and able to make you whole again.

¹ Mental Health Foundation. (2019). 17 July 2019. https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/publications/doing-good-does-you-good


Laura Uber is a graphic designer, firefighter wife, and proud dog mom. When she’s not designing, Laura is hand lettering or exploring Kansas City with friends and family.

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